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Alone For The Holidays? Here’s How to Navigate The Holiday Blues Like a Pro

By: Jessica Taylor, LPC As winter rolls in, it’s normal for the holiday season to bring on a range of emotions.  Especially for those navigating it alone. The pressure to be festive and joyful can sometimes intensify feelings of loneliness and isolation.  This can then lead to a potential onset of depression. That being said, I’m here to help!  Here are some practical things that you can do, to help you beat the winter blues, and find solace and joy this holiday season. Acknowledge Your Feelings: The first step in combating winter depression is acknowledging and accepting your feelings. It’s okay not to be overjoyed during the holiday season, especially if you’re navigating it solo. Allow yourself the space to feel and process your emotions without judgment. Observing without judgement is key! Understanding that it’s normal to experience a range of feelings during this time can be a powerful first step toward overcoming depression. Create a Self-Care Routine: In the midst of the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s easy to neglect self-care. Establishing a consistent self-care routine can be a lifeline during the winter months. This could include activities such as meditation, yoga, or a warm bath. Prioritize getting enough sleep, eating nourishing foods, and engaging in activities that bring you a sense of peace and relaxation. Embrace Nature and Natural Light: The winter months often bring shorter days and less natural sunlight, which can impact mood and energy levels. Counteract this by making a conscious effort to spend time outdoors during daylight hours. Whether it’s a brisk walk at a nearby park, or simply sitting by a window, exposure to natural light can positively influence your mood and help combat feelings of depression.  If you feel that you are struggling to get enough daylight, due to working in an office all day, another great option is buying a sun lamp that you can use at home a few times a week. Set Realistic Expectations: The pressure to create a picture-perfect holiday season can be overwhelming, especially when you’re doing it alone. Set realistic expectations for yourself and recognize that it’s okay not to have everything figured out. Focus on creating moments of joy and simplicity rather than striving for an unrealistic ideal. Allow yourself the freedom to celebrate the season in a way that feels authentic to you.  Be sure to schedule a few winter activities to which you can look forward.  The holiday lights event at Denver’s Botanical Gardens is an excellent option for a single person.  While you engage in activities like this, be sure to ground yourself in the moment and express or visualize your gratitude for where you are in your life. Connect Virtually with Loved Ones: While physical distance may separate you from loved ones, technology allows for virtual connections that can bridge the gap. Schedule video calls with friends and family to share laughter, stories, and even holiday traditions. Building and maintaining connections, even from a distance, can provide a sense of belonging and alleviate feelings of loneliness. Volunteer or Give Back: One effective way to combat depression is by shifting the focus to others. Consider volunteering for a local charity or participating in community events. Helping those in need not only provides a sense of purpose but also fosters a connection to your community. Acts of kindness, no matter how small, can have a huge impact on your mental well-being. Create Your Own Traditions: Rather than dwelling on what you may be missing, use this time to establish your own holiday traditions. Whether it’s trying out new recipes, watching favorite movies, or embarking on a solo adventure, creating personal traditions can make the season feel special and uniquely yours. Seek Professional Support: If feelings of depression feel unmanageable, be sure to reach out for support.  A therapist can provide guidance, coping strategies, and a safe space to express your emotions. Therapy, whether in person or online, can be a valuable resource for navigating the challenges that the winter and holiday season may bring. Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude: Cultivate a mindset of mindfulness and gratitude to shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. Keep a gratitude journal, noting down the positive aspects of each day (I often do this at the end of the day, right before I go to sleep.)  Engage in mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing or meditation, to stay present and appreciate the simple joys that surround you. Set Personal Goals: The winter season can be an excellent time to set personal goals that bring a sense of accomplishment. Whether it’s learning a new skill, pursuing a hobby, or setting fitness targets, having goals to work towards can provide structure and purpose. Achieving these goals, no matter how small, can contribute positively to your mental well-being. Navigating the winter blues as a single person during the holiday season is a journey that requires self-compassion, intentional self-care, and the courage to seek support when needed. By acknowledging your feelings, embracing self-care, and creating meaningful connections, you have the power to shape a season that brings not only joy but also a renewed sense of self. Remember, you are not alone in facing these challenges, and there is strength in recognizing and addressing the impact of the winter blues head-on.

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Is Imposter Syndrome Holding You Back? Start Building Confidence Today with These Tools

Amelia Elkins, LCSW, CAS   “Nothing Can Dim the Light that Shines from Within” -Maya Angelou What is Imposter Syndrome?  Imposter syndrome is defined as feeling like a fraud, phony, and believing that you’re actually not as competent as others believe you to be.  Do you find that you struggle to see your accomplishments? Do you work extra hard, so others don’t “suspect” anything about your work?  Do you ever credit to your success to outside factors, rather than your own abilities? If any of these apply to you, then you might be experiencing imposter syndrome.  This is obviously a challenging cycle to be in and can result in burnout, depression, and an inability to ever feel accomplished or proud of oneself. Here are some things that you can try and begin breaking this cycle and reaching your full potential today.   Recognize how your childhood played a role and break the cycle. When you were growing up, was there a lot of pressure to perform, be the best, or constantly do better? This could be impacting you today. Identifying how these messages played a positive or negative role on your view of yourself is important. What would it mean to break these cycles today? Determine what you want your life to look like, rather than what you have been told it should look like, and work toward this instead. More on this   Get feedback from Coworkers or Colleagues. One of the biggest challenges of imposter syndrome is believing you’re worthy. Asking for positive feedback from colleagues, supervisors, and even friends is a great way to gather proof that the negative thoughts in your head are simply thoughts. Keeping a log or folder full of these truths can be super helpful in dark moments. Simply pull out the log and remind yourself how others see you.   Work toward Self-Acceptance and Compassion. Perfectionism and imposter syndrome go hand in hand so finding ways to challenge negative trains of thought is crucial. If the belief is “I don’t deserve to be giving this presentation,” rewire this belief with three new thoughts. Here are some examples: “I was asked to do the presentation, so someone believes my intellect.” Or “I can trust that I’m doing the best I can, and I will prepare so I’ll feel confident in myself.” More on this here.   Looking for more support? Reach out today to get individualized support for Imposter Syndrome.

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Can Volunteering Improve Your Physical and Mental Health?

This is a Guest Post from the wonderful folks at Project Helping, a non-profit that connects volunteers with opportunities to help the community, all in the name of improving mental health and well-being. Check them out at www.projecthelping.org Can volunteering improve your physical and mental health? Many would assume that giving our time or monetary support is inherently rewarding. But do peer- reviewed studies reflect this notion? Over the past century, there have been countless studies done on the effects volunteering has on people. By building on the knowledge of their predecessors, researchers have found some casual relationships between giving and happiness. Though each study had different controls, methods, and hypotheses, nearly each has resulted in the conclusion that volunteering may have more health benefits than we ever imagined. The World Health Organization estimates that depression is the third leading cause of disease, projected to be the second cause world-wide by 2020, and will rank first in high-income nations by 2030- making it a major public health issue. In fact, one in four Americans, over 60 million people, experience mental illness in a year. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, depression can exacerbate effects of chronic conditions, such as asthma, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, and obesity. Not only does altruism improve your psychological well being, many studies indicate there is a positive relationship between volunteering and cardiovascular disease, disability, mortality, and life satisfaction. The National Alliance on Mental Illness states that when coupled with supportive relationships and counseling, one of the best strategies to prevent depression and suicide in young persons is extra curricular activities, such as sports and voluntary community service. Parenting experts agree that increased autonomy, encouragement, conflict resolution, optimism, understanding, and goal-setting may help improve your childʼs mood. Volunteerism can tackle a myriad of these positive influences simultaneously. And by volunteering with your child, you can set a non-stigmatizing, proactive example in a social, compassionate environment. Volunteering has also been shown to inhibit anti-social behavior in adolescents and may have rehabilitative effects for all ages. In Taiwan, researchers conducted an 18-year longitudinal analysis (1989-2007) of adults over the aged 60-64, studying the relationship between social participation, which included volunteer groups, and depressive symptoms. Their results indicated that participation is “globally beneficial” to the psychological health of older adults and mitigates depressive symptoms. According to a similar British study conducted on all ages of adults between 1996 to 2008, the General Health Questionnaire score was best among those who had volunteered and worst among those who had never volunteered. Though the study indicates adults over 40 often reported mental wellness from volunteerism, evidence also suggests people under 40 who volunteered frequently had much more positive GHQ scores. Isen and Levin (1972) investigated the “positive affective state on his or her subsequent helpfulness to others.” Their results indicate people who feel good themselves are more inclined to help others. Dunn, Aknin, and Norton (2008) found that even when controlling for income, individuals who devoted more prosocial spending, or money spent to aid others, were happier. Harbaugh, Mayr, and Burghart (2007) established that giving money to charity leads to brain activity in regions associated with pleasure and reward. Depression can cause disaffection with family, work, and personal goals- leading many to delay rejoining or contributing to society. Higher rates of depression and suicide are seen in individuals experiencing obesity, heart disease, stroke, sleep disorders, lack of education, lack of access to medical care, unemployment, and divorce- motivating some governments to take action. In fact, the economic impact of suicide death in the United States is estimated near $34 billion annually and another $8 billion in non-fatal injuries and indirect costs, such as lost wages. Because of the growing evidence that volunteering contributes skills, energy, public health and knowledge to communities across the globe, many countries are beginning to regard it as a national resource. In 1997, the United Nations General Assembly proclaimed 2001 as the International Year of Volunteers. This idea stemmed from talks between international non-governmental organizations (NGOs) and the growing recognition that voluntary service makes an essential contribution to societal well being. Prior to 2001, few countries had policies that specifically addressed volunteerism. Now, hundreds of laws and policies throughout the world exist to promote and enable the benefits of volunteering. Dialogue about prosocial behavior and its link to wellbeing dates as far back as ancient Greece. Aristotle asserted that “eudaemonia,” which roughly translates as “human flourishing,” is the goal of life. More than just the pursuit of happiness, it reflects the state in which an individual experiences happiness from successful attendance to their moral and ethical duties. Extensive results demonstrate volunteering’s pro-health qualities. Whether it is sharing your resources, time, or positive attitude, even self-interested giving causes the same effects. No matter your motivations, volunteering is a great first step to creating a real difference in your community and yourself. When you give, you start a chain reaction. You help someone in need, you improve your mood, and you continue to give to receive that productive, connected feeling. Since many studies have found this to be true, shouldnʼt we start educating ourselves and others about the positive feedback loop? Maybe Aristotle was correct- we can flourish when we acknowledge our connectedness and attend to our needs through the needs of others.

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3 Things to Know About Counseling Awareness Month

April is National Counseling Awareness Month. Per the American Counseling Association, the purpose of the Counseling Awareness Month is “a time to celebrate the counseling profession, showcase the important work counselors do in communities nationwide, and educate the public about the many ways in which all types of counselors empower others to live more fulfilling lives.” It’s not too difficult to get on board with that message, but many aren’t aware of Counseling Awareness Month and what it means to thousands of people nationwide. Let’s get more in depth for counseling by exploring what you should know about Counseling Awareness Month. 3 Things to Know About Counseling Awareness Month Counseling is More Than “Serious Issues” The goal of any awareness campaign is to cut through the misinformation and inform on a topic, and there is plenty of misinformation when it comes to counseling. Counseling Awareness Month exists to let people know counseling is more than serious issues. Counseling does contend with serious mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and others but it is used for relationships, life advice, and so much more. This Year’s Theme is “Train Your Brain with Counseling” Counseling Awareness Month holds themes for their awareness and this year’s campaign is “Train Your Brain with Counseling.” The theme will focus on how counseling can help sharpen your brain, and open new possibilities. You can visit the American Counseling Association’s website to learn more about the goals of this year’s campaign. Counseling Awareness Gives a Voice to the Counseling Community The number one goal of Counseling Awareness Month is to help give a voice to the thousands of counselors across the country, and their clients. Despite being 2017, there is still a stigma associated with counseling, often due to misinformation or misunderstanding. The awareness month wants to inform people of the true practices and purposes of counseling and to give a voice to a large but shy community. If one person learns something new about counseling, then the Counseling Awareness Month has done its job. Visit the ACA’s website to learn more about this year’s campaign, as well as how counseling helps thousands of people across the country.

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Are Eating Disorders a Mental Health Issue?

It’s unfortunate that there is such a stigma associated with eating disorders in this country. Most of the time where there is a stigma with an issue, it’s due to ignorance, and that’s the same case when it comes to eating disorders. Many people don’t know how to deal with eating disorders and some don’t even if their issues are due to mental illness or not. Let’s cut through some of this misinformation by looking at the link between eating disorders and mental illness. So, Are Eating Disorders a Mental Health Issue? If you feel like symptoms associated with your health, weight, and food are having a negative impact on your life, then yes, you may be dealing with a mental health issue presenting itself in the form of an eating disorder. Symptoms such as severely limiting your intake of food and nutrients, binging, binging, and purging, obsession with weight loss, inducing vomiting, and extreme amounts of exercise are not normal for a healthy individual. These types of symptoms cannot be attributed to other parts of the body. When you suffer from cirrhosis of the liver, you treat the liver. When you have a broken toe, you put the toe in a split. In the case of eating disorders and symptoms of eating disorders, the issue is coming from your brain. Since this is where the issues are coming from, this is the area you must treat. When you have a mental illness, you must treat the body and the mind. While there are several different causes of eating disorders, it is a certainty that all eating disorders become better under professional treatment. Because there are many different causes behind eating disorders, there are several forms of treatment. Treatment of eating disorders may come in the form of one-on-one counseling or therapy, group therapy, and in some cases outpatient and inpatient treatments depending on the severity of the eating disorder. If you feel you or someone you know is dealing with an eating disorder, it’s best to act before something too damaging happens. A good place to start are mental health support lines and calling local therapy and offices around your area. The sooner you start taking care of an eating disorder, the better the outcome is likely to be.

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3 Ways to Tell If You Suffer from Anxiety

If you’ve never been close to mental illness, or have never experienced symptoms of mental illnesses yourself, it may be difficult to recognize the signs. Anxiety is one of the more common mental illnesses found around the country and can affect people in a variety of ways. There is a difference between general nervousness or hesitancy, and life-altering anxiety. It may be difficult to tell the difference between just having a nervous mindset and diagnosable anxiety, so how can you tell? Let’s review three common signs of anxiety to give you more information about this common and notorious condition. How to Tell If You Suffer from Anxiety Are You Having Daily Troubles Dealing with Fears? It’s normal to worry, it’s even normal to fret over something, but a constant fear that something is wrong, that you didn’t do something right, or that something bad is about to happen is not normal. If fears and worrying thoughts are constantly bombarding you to the point of disrupting your daily life, you may have anxiety that is considered a real issue. Have You Noticed Changes Physiologically? It’s hard to pinpoint when diagnosable anxiety begins, but physiological signs are often a signal. Some physiological signs of anxiety include insomnia or trouble falling to sleep, upset stomach, weakness, lethargy, increased blood pressure, gastrointestinal issues, increased heart rate, and many others. Anxiety may be linked with other mental illness like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, and others. Have You Suffered from a Panic Attack? A panic attack is a scary presentation of anxiety and can be debilitating for most. Symptoms of a panic attack including feeling hot or cold, numbness in the fingers and other parts of the body, trouble breathing, rapid heart rate, high blood pressure, sweating, dizziness, blurred vision, shaking, and a sometimes an overwhelming fear that you are losing control, or “going crazy.” Panic attacks can be ugly and are a prime symptom of anxiety. There are many different presentations of anxiety and many different symptoms. The preceding three signs are some of the more obvious symptoms of anxiety but it can be different for everybody. If you feel like anxiety is disrupting your daily life, it’s time to make the call to a local therapist or your doctor. You can only relieve the symptoms of anxiety once you start treating it.

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Is There a Connection Between Depression and the Holidays?

Some people can’t wait for the holidays to arrive, while others dread when they look at the calendar and see Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s all coming up. If you experience mental health issues such as depression, it may almost seem like when the holidays roll around, your depression and levels of anxiety seem to grow. So, is it normal to feel this way? Let’s review what impact the holiday season can have on your mental health issues such as depression and what you can do to turn the holiday season around into an enjoyable experience. Is There Really a Connection Between Depression and the Holidays? Like many other things with mental illness, there is plenty of misinformation regarding depression and the holiday season. There has long been a social rumor that suicide rates peak during the Christmas and holiday season, but this isn’t true. In fact, according to the trade publication Psychology, Today suicide rates are actually at their lowest during December. Since suicide rates have a direct correlation with depression, but they’re actually low during the holidays, where does this information come from? There actually is a typical increase in depression during the holiday season, but it’s possible a seasonal influx of depression can be contributed to the season itself and not to the dread of meeting family members. The human body loves and needs sunlight, so when the levels of sunlight drop during the short days of winter (not so coincidentally the same time as the holiday season) our bodies can be affected. This is known as seasonal depression or seasonal affective disorder (SAD.) SAD can cause our circadian rhythm to go haywire, can cause a drop in your serotonin levels and a drop in your body’s natural production of melatonin. All these factors can make even people with average mental health feel depressed and can make depression already being suffered by others worse. The fact that SAD coincides with the holiday season may be a reason for the influx of heightened depression over the holidays, compounded with other personal issues you may experience over the holidays. There is a connection between the holidays and depression, but it could be contributed to the low levels of sunlight. If your depression seems to spike over the holidays, have a chat with your counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist to see what you can do to make the holidays full of cheer, and not depression.

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5 Tips for Coping with Holiday Stress

The holiday season is filled with joy, wonder, and magic to many. For others, it can be an overwhelming and stressful time with family in town, work deadlines looming, and just planning to have a holly jolly holiday with your loved ones. If you find the stress seeping into every part of your day during the holiday season, you’re not alone. We’ve put together five tips for coping with the holiday stress in your life to help you get through the hard times. 5 Tips for Coping with Holiday Stress in Your Life Stick to a Budget One of the ways holidays get out of control for people is the cost. Presents, dinners, gift cards, and more add up and if you don’t stick to a budget – or exceed it – it can cause undue stress on you mentally, emotionally, and financially. Before the holidays begin, set a budget, stick to it, and set aside money in advance so that you don’t feel overwhelmed come winter. Get in Your Exercise You may not be the most active person but the holidays tend to make us want to curl up on the sofa and get away from it all. Get in some exercise every day, even if it’s just something as simple as cleaning your home, walking around the block, or taking a break during the day to hit the gym. Just a little bit of exercise each day can brighten your mood and help you overcome stress. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Just like any other day of your life, the holidays are filled with difficulties. Don’t let them get to you! Something may happen that derails your day but don’t let it control your life. Let go of the small stuff, everything thrown your way can be handled even if it doesn’t seem like it at the moment. Take Some Time for Yourself Don’t feel selfish walking away from it all for a while during the holidays, especially if you have family in town. A quick breather away from the chaos can help calm your nerves, anxiety, and stress allowing you to handle whatever’s thrown your way. Pop into the bathroom, head out on the porch or go for a short walk to collect your thoughts and tackle the next challenge. Pick and Choose Your Battles No matter what happens during the holidays, you don’t have to deal with everything coming at you. Pick and choose your battles, especially if they involve relatives, and just let some of it go. Not everything has to be dealt with, argued about, or even discussed. Learn what’s important to fight for and let everything else fall to the wayside to melt stress. While the holidays are a stressful time for most, remember that at the end of the day, they, too, shall pass.

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5 Signs You May Have a Substance Abuse Problem

Not everyone can tell they have a substance abuse issue. While others around you may notice you acting differently, you may not understand the signs and symptoms of a problem until confronted. Here are five of the most common signs you may have a substance abuse problem and what you can do to help yourself overcome it. 5 Signs You May Have a Substance Abuse Problem to Fight Cravings Intense cravings for drugs, food, drink, or other substances can be an indication you have an issue that needs to be addressed. Depending on the drug in question, you may find you not only crave the substance but food or drink as well when high. Physical Dependence A physical dependence on a substance can manifest itself in a variety of ways, sometimes mimicking withdrawal symptoms as well. As you become dependent on a substance, your body becomes dependent on it, too which means you’ll often feel bad or sick when not high or when not using regularly. Tolerance As time goes on, you become more dependent on a substance which builds your tolerance to it. You may need a higher dosage to get high. If you notice you need to drink more, smoke more, or partake in a substance in higher dosages, you’re building a tolerance which is cause for concern. Withdrawal Symptoms When you go without the substance, even for a brief period of time, you may experience mental, emotional, and physical symptoms of withdrawing. You’ll crave the substance like never before and until you get more, you may continue with withdrawal symptoms that make you feel horrible. This is always something to be on the lookout for, especially as tolerance for a substance grows. Isolation While some substance users feel more social when indulging, others isolate themselves so the world around them doesn’t see what the substance does to them. If you’re a social person and you start ditching your family and friends to indulge in your substance of choice, consider what’s making. Substance abuse problems are never easy to deal with, regardless of the support system around you. By being able to identify some of the signs yourself or with the help of others, you can set yourself up for overcoming them before your life becomes unmanageable.

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