How Can I Improve my Motivation?
How can I improve my motivation? Motivation comes and goes. Create a reward system that works for you to stick with your goals.
How can I improve my motivation? Motivation comes and goes. Create a reward system that works for you to stick with your goals.
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By: Jessica Taylor, LPC What do you imagine when you think of a person who is depressed? I am guessing that what comes to mind is someone who is sad and experiencing negative emotions that might even lead to suicidal thoughts. What you might not know is that depression can show up in sneaky ways. Sure, depression can be contributed to by situational factors, but some individuals can experience symptoms of depression for no apparent reason at all. Some individuals experience symptoms of depression because their brain is not producing enough serotonin. If this is the case, they may not feel sad, but rather experience other signs of depression. If you worry that this might be you, ask yourself the following questions. Feeling more Irritable or Angry Have you noticed that things that used to not bother you at all are making you angry? Do you experience “road rage?” Are your loved ones feeling as though you are always mad at them? Irritability is a common sign of depression! When we are experiencing internal distress, we tend to become irritated by external factors much more easily. Feeling More Tired than Normal Is it difficult to get out of bed in the morning, even if you got a full night of sleep? Are you feeling exhausted most of the day for no apparent reason? Do you feel like you just want to stay in bed and sleep all day? If you are getting a decent amount of sleep and continue to feel tired, it is important to first rule out any possible physical conditions. If your experience of feeling like you can never get enough sleep is not caused by a medical condition, then it is possible that this is your body’s way of trying to tell you that you are experiencing depression. Noticing Sudden Changes in Weight Are you eating less or eating more than usual? Both can point to depression. Some people have the experience of not feeling hungry and others might use food as comfort when they are feeling stressed out or sad. Not Feeling Motivated to do Work or Tasks at Home Have you noticed that you are sitting at your desk just “zoning out” rather than working? Maybe it’s because your mind feels blank, or maybe you are distracted by other things. Does the idea of completing even simple tasks at work and home feel overwhelming? Wanting to Spend more Time Alone Have you found yourself canceling plans with friends, or not making plans at all? Does the idea of leaving your home make you feel anxious or overwhelmed? Have you started to have negative thoughts about your relationships and interactions with the people you care about (such as “they won’t care that I’m not there, anyway”)? Feeling Bored by Activities you Once Enjoyed Have you stopped doing the things you once enjoyed? Do you find the idea of trying a new hobby unappealing? These feeling of apathy are subtle but might point to a lack of serotonin production. What You should Do If You Think That You Might Be Depressed If you think that you might be depressed, ask for help! Your symptoms of depression might be the ‘sneaky’ kind, but traditional treatment of depression can still help. Call a therapist, tell them what you are experiencing, and ask if they think therapy might be helpful for you.
By: Jessica Taylor, LPC Are you worried that you might not be getting enough sleep? Well, you are not alone. According to the American Sleep Association, 37% of individuals aged 20-39 and 40% of individuals aged 40-59 report short sleep duration, or in other words, sleep deprivation. We always hear how important sleep is, but why is that? Simply put, when we are in a deep (REM) sleep, this is our brain’s chance to go through the “washing machine.” It is processing everything that happened that day while also preparing our body for the next day. If we are not getting enough sleep, then we are not providing out body and brain the time they need to do things like balance our immune system and store memories. More simply put, if we are not getting enough sleep, we are more at risk for developing mental illness such as anxiety. What is Sleep Anxiety? A lack of sleep can cause general anxiety (for example, feeling more worried or restless throughout the day), but some individuals, often those that have been dealing with chronic sleep issues, experience what is called sleep anxiety. Sleep anxiety is when you are so anxious about not sleeping, which results in restlessness and intrusive thoughts, and this actually contributes to your lack of sleep. For example, if you have sleep anxiety, you might begin to feel restless or worried when it is getting close to bed time and then you might have thoughts such as “I’m scared to go to bed because I know I’m not going to sleep and am just going to lay awake worrying.” How to Deal with Sleep Anxiety You first need to do something called reality testing your anxious thoughts. Ask yourself: “if I don’t get enough sleep tonight, or don’t sleep at all, how bad is that really?” Chances are, that worse case scenario is just feeling really tired the next day. Right now, your brain is catastrophizing the idea of not getting sleep. If you change that process and instead buy into a more realistic thought, chances are that your brain will begin to calm down enough and let you feel sleepy. Come up with a mantra for yourself that you can repeat as needed. For example: “It’s okay if I struggle to sleep tonight and feel tired tomorrow.” How to Improve Your Sleep Hygiene and Reduce Anxiety Here are some quick and easy things you can try to improve your sleep: Don’t spend time in your bed during the day Put your phone away at least one hour before bed Take a warm shower or bath at night Have a bedtime routine that you do every night like clockwork Don’t eat for a few hours before bed Go to bed at the same time every night Listen to a guided meditation or sleep story while in bed What To Do if You Have Already Tried all of These Things and None of Them Helped If you feel as though you have tried the things that I recommended above and none of them helped improve your sleep, remember that consistency is key. These strategies may not help right away, or every time, but chances are that you will see some improvement in the quantity and quality of your sleep if you use them consistently. In addition, it might be helpful to talk to your doctor in order to rule out any medical explanations and discuss other treatment options.
Holidays can be hard when you don’t get along with your family. There are simple strategies to take care of yourself and have healthy boundaries for a drama-free holiday with family.